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Thursday, August 5, 2010

2nd Embryo Adoption

We received new profiles to review yesterday! The NEDC is doing things differently now. Rather than all couples having a closed adoption in the same transfer cycle receiving the profiles at the same time, each couple is given 24 hours to make a decision and then they're sent to the next couple and so on... So, rather than feeling like we were in a "time-crunch" like last time (remember how we responded to the email in 17 minutes?!), we were able to take all day and night thinking and praying about our decisions. We have chosen to adopt a set of 4 blastocysts and a set of 2 blastocysts (since the NEDC requires a total of 6 embryos in case some should not survive the thaw). Just like last time though, we are only considering our first set of 4 to be our children and are specifically praying for them to survive the thaw, implant, and that we could see their faces in June 2011! While we are still very saddened that we lost our first two babies, God has given us a renewed sense of joy and excitement about our next children - We can't wait for next month!!!

Also, this time around things will be different in that...
1) We originally wanted to raise an awareness about frozen embryos as a pro-life issue, so we were very vocal about each step in our adoption with our family, friends, Facebook, and blog. Now that we've raised an awareness, we want our next adoption to be a little more quiet and intimate. We will still keep our blog updated, but will not be posting anything on Facebook or really talking to anyone about it other than our immediate family members. Please keep following and commenting on our blog, though - We gladly welcome that! :)
2) I will be taking HPTs next time! I thought that seeing a negative HPT would be more difficult than hearing the news over the phone. However, I was wrong. When the phone call is the first time you're hearing the news that your children are no longer alive, it takes your breath away, and you lose all consciousness of what the nurse is saying regarding specific test results, etc. All you hear and comprehend are the words "negative beta." Also, I like what Jen said awhile back about celebrating their lives no matter how long the Lord allows you to do so (I hope it's okay that I linked this, Jen...If not, let me know!) .
3) We really have no expectations this time...we are simply following God's will for us to rescue these frozen lives regardless if that is continued life on earth or an eternal home in Heaven. Of course we are continuing ot pray that our next embryos would be healthy and have birth on this earth, but we know that regardless of how "healthy" an embryo may appear, that is not a measure of God's sovereign will.

All that to say, we're excited and invite you to follow us as we prepare for our Embryo Adoption #2!


JenJen said...

Congrats on receiving profiles!!! How exciting!!! Prayers that this time your babies will grow to be strong and healthy and stay here on earth with you.

Christina said...

It's interesting how they are doing the anonymous adoptions now--it's great that you have more time to think it over.

I totally understand wanting to keep things a little more quiet--I was the same way with my last cycle.

HPT's are evil. For some reason, though, I can't seem to stay away from them. You test too early, you agonize over whether it's a real line or an evap line, you question the brand of test you choose then go buy more, you bang your head on the wall a few times and say WHY DID I DO THIS?!? Maybe it's just me.

I can't wait for your next transfer!

Room for More said...

I am so glad to hear you are matched once again so quickly. I understand you wanting to remain more private. We have discussed in the last few days how much we are going to share, and have decided to make things private as well in a lot of areas. We want to educate, but not share a lot of personal family information either.
I look forward to hearing about your +HPTs soon as they get darker and darker! I am a former POAS-oholic and have bought from e-bay in bulk in the past! EEK! love you!!

Jen said...

It's totally ok that you linked. Praying for you and your babies, and glad you're finding ways to make the process a little easier on yourselves.

Ashley said...

There is something about being matched with our babies that stirs up such excitement inside me! Praying we both get to see positive hpt's this time!!

Tracey said...

Congrats on deciding on the profiles and having more babies to pray for! I totally understand about needing to be a bit more private. We had an adoption fail in March and after that one, it has been hard for me to go totally public with this embryo adoption. It is definitely hard to answer all the questions, etc.. when you have a big support network. I am planning on blogging soon, but haven't gotten to it yet. Feel free to check it out at

We are also in the September transfer with anonymous donors. Praying that we both get pregnant!

Susan Sene said...

Sorry to hear about the loss of your babies. I haven't been able to catch up on blogs like I used to.

Best wishes for this transfer and that you will see those lil babies next year!!

twondra said...

Praying for you!!

Britney said...

Read this today and thought of you:
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a Mother
And I know I heard him say.
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true.
But God can you be a Mother
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can He replied
With confidence in His voice
I give many women babies
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay
I just don't understand this, God
I want my baby here
He took a breath and cleared His throat
And then I saw a tear.
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom
Who had so much love for me
I learned my lesson very quickly
My mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow's where I lay.
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I'm here."
So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are ok
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lesson is through.
And on the day that you come home
They'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start.
Though some on earth may not realize you are a Mother,
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
And you know you're the best one!
-Jennifer Wasik

Britney said...

Jennifer -- do you have a transfer date yet? send me an email at There are 4 of us blogger friends that are all going to tenn in sept and I want to get us together!